Look forward to listen and talk

Communication is a very important part of people’s life. Listening and talking are inseparable. The two become important means of communication for people. No matter through words, words, music or other channels, communication channels can be established to connect people’s hearts. Being willing to listen, learning to listen and being good at listening is indeed a kind of excellent quality and cultivation. God gives people two ears and two eyes, but only one bite, to make them hear more and speak less. People need to communicate, communicate, cooperate, work together and be good at listening, which not only reflects one’s moral cultivation standard, it also concerns whether we can establish a normal and harmonious interpersonal relationship with others. In life and work, you should pay attention to listening, listen to your lover, share his happiness, and resolve his troubles with consideration; Listen to your child, and feel the soul as a friend, give them confidence to move forward; Listen to your parents, let them feel the filial piety of their children, relieve their inner loneliness; Listen to your colleagues and friends, and sincerely happy for their progress, cheer for their success and become an umbrella in the rain and a lamp on the road. People should be willing to listen, learn to listen and be good at listening, which is a kind of excellent quality and cultivation. Listening, the most rare thing is to be good at listening to different opinions or even negative opinions. People should not only learn to listen, but also learn to pour out and learn to pour out their own troubles. In fact, if there is no pouring out, there will be no pouring out. When encountering unpleasant things, don’t sulk yourself and suppress your bad mood in your heart, but learn to pour out. Pouring out is a basic function of human beings, and it is necessary to exist from social society to today’s society. No matter in the family or in the society, the main emotional connection of people’s life is communication. Express one’s subjective will through communication, so as to reach some agreement with others to realize common interests. Pouring out is a kind of communication, and a kind of expression and evaluation of human beings to their own or others’ behavior and thoughts. This desire is the same as sexual desire as human instinct. When we have new understandings and opinions about something or someone, we will have a desire to pour out. Whether it is praise or belittle, it is the motive force of desire. People have the desire to pour out since they are sensible. We all hope that our inner confusion can tell someone that sometimes we want some kind of help, sometimes we just want to vent. Children are wronged at school and always talk to their mother. When the mother listened to the child’s talk carefully and made a certain response, the child’s sense of grievance decreased accordingly, which met a demand in sense. When children encounter difficulties, they usually talk to their father. When father provides help and understanding, children’s anxiety will decrease. If the child is praised, or gets a good score in the exam, then the range of pouring out will be extended to neighbors or other relatives. When hearing others’ appreciation, children’s happiness will be magnified. On the contrary, when these pouring out cannot be responded, the child may force the listener to respond by losing his temper and crying. If the child’s pouring out is ignored for a long time, they will even have the psychological tendency of autism except crying. After adults pour out for a long time without a response, it may lead to hysteria. In fact, people’s hearts are very fragile. With the increase of age, people’s demand for pouring out will increase instead of decreasing. In other words, our inner ability to bear pressure is still not enough, which is directly proportional to the pain we have experienced. It is just because the pain experienced is constantly increasing, and the demand for pouring out is naturally increasing. The channels of pouring out are no longer just relatives, but also extend to a wider social circle. In the group of derailment, a large part of people mostly want to find a person to talk to, and most of what they do every day is just to talk to each other. No matter who you are, you will have the desire to pour out. Things happened in school often need to be told to parents; Troubles encountered in work often need to be told to friends or other close people, although sometimes they can’t get help from such pouring out. People who need to pour out are not emotionally flawed. On the contrary, this is a reflection of emotional integrity. Therefore, we don’t need to be ashamed of our endless chatter in front of our companions. Of course, pouring out needs the environment. For example, the listener has enough time or patience today, and this pouring out will not make the listener feel unhappy. Sometimes, your monographs, smiles and nodding towards listeners can fill their emotional loneliness. Living in social life, there are many things that cannot be said or done, which may deviate from people’s original desire. Therefore, most people living in the society have emotional depression more or less. This kind of depression will cause great mental pressure. Of course, people will not always be in a depressed mood. Life is full of surprises and challenges. When you succeed, your senses will be excited. Whether it is depression or pleasure, it will stimulate people’s desire to pour out. Especially between couples, pouring out pain can relieve psychological pressure, and pouring out joy can deepen the confidence of success. If Mrs. Xu could act as an excellent listener, then the probability of Xu Yijia cheating physically or mentally would be greatly reduced. However, the containment of pouring out this desire is not only caused by the inconcentration or impatience of listeners. In this society, there are still a lot of people who have not entered the marriage forcibly containing their desire to pour out. They used to have a good person to talk to, but the next day they found that the content they talked to became a joke played by people, or a tool used by others to crowd out and slander themselves. In this case, those who were seriously frustrated in self-esteem no longer believed in their partners, so they chose silence. The shadow of being betrayed by their companions lingers in their hearts, leading to distrust of others in life. After a period of time, if this kind of emotion can not be relaxed, it will lead to various mental diseases, such as mental weakness or depression. In fact, a friend is a good person to talk to. He and you complement each other in interests, mutual tolerance in will and mutual dependence in emotion. He can always help you find the emotional sustenance you need. He can always listen to you patiently and help you solve problems from your standpoint. If it is the opposite sex, it will develop into emotional dependence, hoping to live with each other for a long time, in order to obtain the complementary interests and mutual tolerance of will. Chen Hui was a suitable close friend found by Xu Yijia. They shared each other’s happiness and pain. However, they are not real lovers. This kind of mental derailment often needs an emotional trash can and does not want to affect their own lives. But lovers are different. They cherish each other, care about each other and care about each other. In today’s strong sense of legal system, everyone is paying attention to privacy. Yes, privacy is like a wall standing in front of people who are eager to talk. Privacy includes two parts: what you want to say and what you don’t want to say. The part that you want to say needs to be shared by someone. However, with the strengthening of the concept of privacy, what you want to say and what you can say gradually becomes that you don’t want to say or dare not say. People are always full of curiosity about others’ privacy, and no one can guarantee whether this second of pouring out will become well-known gossip news in the next second. This kind of danger makes the complaining person hesitate, and the leftover will become moldy after staying in the trash for a long time, let alone emotion. If a trustworthy friend is willing to listen at this time, the emotional struggle and pain will be relieved. People live in love all their lives, and they strive to get love, not only to tell someone their subjective wish with confidence, but also to hope that the other side cherish this wish as much as themselves? However, the development of the society has a dark side: Some couples have different bedfellows, holding their loved ones while calling other people’s names; Some friends use each other, in order to maximize their own interests, they would not hesitate to sell friendship; Some relatives are also not intimate, and they may tear their faces at any time and place for those thin lands and several square meters of real estate. It is just those people and those things that make people unable to open their arms and always feel uneasy. Therefore, smart and helpless people invented many safe ways of pouring out, including words, music, Internet and telephone. With the rise of blog, online chat and emotional hotline, these channels basically won with a sense of strangeness. In these channels, people can audition people who can respond to their pouring out, and they don’t have to worry that their real world will be disturbed. Pouring out is indeed a great pleasure in life, but don’t patronize yourself to be happy and ignore the listener, at least don’t turn it into the burden of others. No matter who is complaining or listening, they should learn to think from the standpoint of the other side. As mentioned before, both couples, friends and relatives need to spend part of their time listening to each other. Spiritual communication is an important way to maintain relationships. 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