Happiness is in the side

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What is happiness? Some people say that happiness means wealth, status, happy marriage, longevity, health, beauty, success in career, good food, well dressed, good living, etc. In fact, this view is wrong, but this is not the case. Now there are many people with wealth and status, and they may not live happily. In fact, happiness consists of many happiness factors. When we prefer something (wealth, status, etc.), we think that getting these things is getting happiness. In fact, any kind of entity, such as wealth and status, itself is not the essence of happiness, but a certain cause of happiness in life. Happiness is felt by the heart. Only a healthy mood can bring happiness. In a bad mood, even if you are an emperor and have the power, status and wealth of the world, you will still live a miserable life. Now there are more people pursuing happiness and fewer people getting happiness. Why? It is mainly because of the wrong concept that happiness is unconditional and depends on luck. In fact, happiness is conditional, and nothing in the world is unconditional. Everything is made up of conditions. Take forming a chorus for example! There should be commanding teachers, league members, someone composing music and so on, which are all tangible; Other intangible factors include the enthusiasm, confidence, morale, internal harmony of League members and so on. While pursuing happiness, we must have the conditions for happiness and pay the price first. If you don’t want to pay and just want to get, there is absolutely no such thing in the world. To accomplish anything, there is always a price for some time, some painstaking efforts, some money and some labor. There is nothing to gain without work in the world. Happiness must loyalty. Loyalty is a loyal person. On the surface, he often suffers losses. In fact, he takes advantage of it. Because a person who is loyal and doesn’t care about others, his children are all excellent, his wife is also very virtuous. Therefore, to suffer losses is to take advantage. We must be honest. Honesty is sincerity. There are many people who are honest and honest, but their attitudes are casual and their interpersonal relationships are not harmonious. We need to live happily and have a good interpersonal relationship. If you don’t have affinity and get along well with others, then you will be annoyed every day. If you are sincere, even if you do something wrong, others will forgive you. Pursuing happiness must be modest. Modesty means modesty, tolerance means tolerance. There is no perfect person in the world, there are sunspots on the surface of the sun, and there are slight flaws in the white color. There is no perfect thing in the world, and you must tolerate it. If you firmly believe in cause and effect, you will be more tolerant, because mistakes are always troubles. If you say a wrong word, you will immediately cause troubles. If you mishear it, you will be annoyed. Others are not talking about you at first, but you suspect that they are talking about you. Then aren’t you asking for troubles yourself? Most people who are willing to tolerate are happy; Those who cannot tolerate will not be happy. They have cold war with others all day long, but you will defeat yourself instead of others. Happiness must awe. Revere God and Buddha. Confucius said that a gentleman has three fears: fear of Destiny, fear of adults, and fear of the words of Saints. The Kung Fu of Confucianism in Song and Ming dynasty is to respect and preserve sincerity. Lord Jing, it doesn’t mean that no one around can relax and be casual, or just like seeing a big guest. This is the spirit of being cautious and independent. To be honest, to respect every object, not to be angry, if you are unhappy, then drop the spoon for the meal to the ground, which is called disrespect, it didn’t offend you, why did you drop it? This call angry. We should respect people and everything. Happiness must be cautious. Zhuge Liang’s life was based on prudence. You should think twice before you speak, and leave a half sentence at your mouth. You should be careful and cautious in everything you do, so that you won’t get any trouble or damage happiness. People will not be happy if they live in troubles. If they want to live in troubles, they should be especially cautious. Many people speak wildly and casually. The first time they say something wrong, the second time and the third time they still say something wrong. Tomorrow, the day after tomorrow and even next year are still the same, which is called not cautious. Caution means being cautious in words and deeds. Only when we speak casually and do things casually can we cherish our happiness. Only by cherishing happiness can we own and maintain happiness. Therefore, caution is a common saying, but it is very important. Happiness must be grateful. When you think about yourself living a happy life every day and a family living a happy life, you must be content and grateful. People cannot be born in this world without their parents’ ties. In the process of growing up, food, clothing, housing and transportation depend on others’ contributions, so that they can live by themselves. While the free love of sunshine, air and water, the care of parents from nature, the care of the country’s cultivation and education, and the complementary assistance and friendship of the public, they are all things that we should know, be grateful and repay in this journey of life. Buddhism advocates four kinds of kindness: Thanks to heaven and earth, parents, the country and all living beings. Why do you want to thank all living beings? Because I can’t live without all living beings. Can you be Robinson? No, so be grateful. Only when you are grateful can you be kind, and only when you are kind can you be blessed. If you are not kind, sharp, and ungrateful, then you will not be blessed, and your blessings will be destroyed by you. Happiness is just a personal feeling. It depends on how you treat it. Therefore, we should spend every day happily, very relaxed; Cherish what we have now, very satisfied; Grasp the time, leave no regrets, very fulfilling. A happy person is not because he has much, but because he cares less, knows how to discover and find, and has broad mind and elegant demeanour. Most of the time, happiness is as simple as this, spreading like weeds and spreading like air in every space. As long as you pay attention to it, it is actually very simple to get it. People live in different environments. As long as blessings and calamities depend on each other and happiness mix with each other, the feeling of happiness will come one after another as long as we deal with the world calmly, look down on gains and losses, and actively explore the good side of life. Remember, happiness is around us, right in front of us, right in the minutes of time and space.

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