Maximum unfortunately is inferiority

For people, there is a natural feeling in life that accompanies our whole life. Some people say that it is love, but actually it is not. Love is not born with moral character, but needs to be learned. A newborn baby doesn’t know love, but he feels self-abased. Crying is the flag of self-abasement, which is the first terrified confession to cold (compared with the constant temperature in the mother’s body) and loneliness (compared with the closeness in the mother’s body), it is also the declaration of being forced to live independently. This scene is quite symbolic. People have no way to avoid self-abasement in front of strong natural laws. However, people can’t be overthrown by self-abasement. People grow up in the struggle against self-abasement. It can be said that self-abasement is the biggest enemy of happiness. The reason is very simple. If a person is immersed in self-abasement all the time, how can he still enjoy happiness! Nowadays, there is such a kind of person in the society, who is obviously good, but he always feels not good; He is obviously satisfied with what he has done, but he always feels dissatisfied; obviously, I am not bad in any aspect, but I always feel that I am inferior to others. Obviously, this kind of person is not good at doing anything, has no confidence, does not like to approach others, and sometimes even feels tired of the world. This kind of person’s psychology is not very normal, and he suffers from a kind of self-abasement: a kind of self-evaluation is very low, and he can’t face himself squarely, and he gradually looks down on himself and is inferior to others, there is always a bleak feeling of planting ugly ducklings. They always think that they are finished and hopeless. They always feel inferior to others and lack confidence and courage to succeed. Therefore, they are ashamed, shy, timid, discouraged, disappointedly and dejectedly, resulting in the psychological state of hesitating and not making progress. For most people, there is no harm in having a little self-abasement. On the contrary, with a little self-abasement, you can know your own shortcomings so as to better meet them; You can improve your ambition level and enhance your motivation to move forward; it can better arouse one’s enterprising mentality. However, if the self-abasement is developed to the extreme, it will go to the opposite side, and it will not work. To that extent, the harm of inferiority is no less than pride. Self-abasement is proposed by Adler, the founder of individual psychology. Adler is an Austrian psychologist, known as the father of modern Self Psychology. He was born in 1870 in a merchant family in Vienna, ranking the second child. His family was rich, and his family loved music very much. Ordinarily, it was a happy environment with ample food and clothing. However, Adler in his childhood was not happy at all. Why? The reason came from his brother. Although they were born by the same mother, the elder brother was tall, robust, lively and adorable, while Adler was weak and sickly since he was a child, and he was still a humpback. When he was 5 years old, he had another serious illness, which made him short and ugly. Fortunately, Adler was very smart. Later he was admitted to university and became a doctor after graduation. Due to his disability, in 1907, Adler published a paper about inferiority caused by physical defects, which made him famous since then. He disagreed with Freud’s sexual determinism and emphasized the decisive role of social and cultural factors in the formation and development of personality. His main point of view is: Pursuing Excellence is the core of human motivation, while how to pursue excellence depends on everyone’s unique life style. The pursuit of excellence is a natural driving force, which makes people strive to become a perfect person without defects. People always have defects. Self-abasement caused by physical or other reasons can destroy a person, make people feel willing to fall down or suffer from mental illness. On the other hand, it can also make people angry and strive to cheer up, to compensate for your shortcomings. Self-abasement often breaks into our inner world inadvertently and controls our life. When we make decisions and make trade-offs, they extort courage and courage from us. When we encounter difficulties, inferiority will stand behind us and scare us loudly; When we are going to make great strides forward, inferiority will pull our sleeves and ask us to be careful of landmines. An accidental frustration will make you depressed, collapse and deny everything about yourself. You will feel that you are useless and useless, and you will fall into the vortex of self-accusation. Self-abasement bites our personality like moths. It is a stumbling block to success and a barrier to happy life. The best way to deal with self-abasement is self-confidence. Only self-confidence can release all kinds of power of people. Confident people are bold, confident people are brave, confident people are honest, confident people are cheerful, confident people are optimistic, confident people are open-minded, confident people are modest, confident people are enthusiastic, confident people love life, confident people are fearless, confident people are happy, confident people are easy to accept their own shortcomings, confident people are more objective, confident people are more responsible for themselves, confident people are easier to control their emotions, confident people are easier to accept reality, confident people are more sympathetic, confident people are more capable of loving, and confident people have deeper interpersonal relationships, confident people are more Democratic. Never forget that confidence is the core force of personality. Start with small goals and change your incompetent state. Some people’s self-abasement is caused by many setbacks and setbacks. Don’t aim too high, set appropriate goals, start from small things, and do those things you can do step by step, that is, adjust your psychological incompetence by small steps. One cannot have big goals or long-term plans. However, when these long-term goals are formulated, the more important thing is to set more intermediate goals and complete them step by step, I often encourage myself with the intermediate achievement value that I can accomplish. You should also be good at fostering advantages and avoiding disadvantages, and be good at achieving success in your strengths, while successful experience and accumulation can constantly eliminate your inferiority and enhance your confidence. In a word, constant success will change the state of despising oneself and finally achieve the result of overcoming inferiority. Using compensation psychology to surpass self-abasement. Compensation psychology is a kind of psychological adaptation mechanism. Individuals always have some deviations in the process of adapting to society and strive to get compensation. From a psychological point of view, this kind of compensation is actually a kind of shift, that is, to overcome one’s physical defects or psychological inferiority, and to develop one’s strengths and advantages in other aspects, A psychological adaptation mechanism of catching up with or passing through others is exactly the function of this psychological mechanism. Inferiority has become the driving force for many successful people to succeed and the turbo boost for them to surpass themselves, the greater the physiological defects, the stronger their inferiority, the greater the desire to seek compensation, and the more the capital to achieve the great cause. Learn to smile. Most people know that laughter can give people confidence, and it is a good medicine to cure the lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don’t believe this, because they never try to laugh when they are afraid. We must believe that true laughter can not only cure our bad emotions, but also immediately dissolve others’ hostile emotions. If you show your face and smile to someone sincerely, he will have a good impression on you, which is enough to make you full of confidence. As a poem says: smile is the rest of the tired, the daytime of the depressed, the sunshine of the sad and wounded, and the best nutrition of nature.

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